As polyamorous relationships become more common and accepted, the concept of metamours has also gained traction. Metamours are defined as the partners of one’s partner in a polyamorous relationship. While they may not be romantically involved with each other, they still play an important role in shaping the dynamics of a polyamorous relationship. Here are eight things to keep in mind when navigating your relationship with your metamours.
1. Communication is Key
Communication is essential for any successful relationship, but it becomes even more crucial in a polyamorous one where multiple people are involved. It’s important to establish open communication channels from the beginning and make sure that everyone feels heard and understood.
2. Respect Each Other’s Boundaries
Just like any other relationship, boundaries need to be respected between metamours as well. This means being mindful of each other’s emotional needs, physical space, time commitments, and anything else that might come up.
3. Be Willing to Compromise
Inevitably there will be times when you don’t see eye-to-eye with your metamour on certain issues or decisions related to your shared partner(s). In these instances it’s essential that both parties are willing to compromise so that everyone can feel comfortable and satisfied within the dynamic.
4. Recognize Your Shared Experiences
While your individual relationships with your shared partner(s) may differ greatly from each other’s experiences, it’s important to recognize that you do share some common ground as well. Acknowledge this fact by discussing similarities or differences in the way you relate to them.
5. Stay Out Of Drama
Polyamory can bring about complex emotions which can easily lead into drama if not managed properly – especially between metamours who may have different opinions or beliefs about how things should work within their shared dynamic(s). Avoid engaging in unnecessary arguments or conflicts whenever possible by focusing on solutions rather than problems.
6. Keep Things Positive
Being positive and supportive of your metamours can go a long way in fostering positive relationships within a polyamorous dynamic. This means celebrating each other’s successes, offering encouragement and support when needed, and generally showing kindness and empathy towards one another.
7. Avoid Comparison
Comparing oneself to others is never healthy – especially in intimate relationships where emotions run high. It’s essential that you avoid comparing yourself to your metamour(s) as this can lead to feelings of inadequacy or jealousy which can be damaging to all involved.
8. Be Open-Minded
Finally, it’s important to approach the concept of metamours with an open mind – recognizing that everyone has their own unique experiences and perspectives on the matter. By being open-minded, you’ll create space for growth, learning, and deeper connections within your shared dynamic(s).
In conclusion, navigating relationships with metamours in a polyamorous dynamic requires patience, communication skills, compromise willingness, respect for boundaries among others outlined here. With these tips in mind though any relationship between two (or more) people who share an intimate connection will have greater success than if they don’t consider them at all!